12. Just Dating, In General, Is Tough
We might only think about dating from our perspective, and yet dating as a guy must be tough. Guys are supposed to “make the first move” and always be confident and have no emotions. We tend not to think that they want to be in a serious, committed, long-term relationship and we make all of these assumptions about them.
Maybe some guys are intimidated by the dating scene in general, and that’s the case for this guy, at least according to his Reddit post.
“I wouldn’t say I ever get intimidated, per se. The cause of distress for most guys comes more from everything surrounding a girl: the social conventions of dating, gender roles, etc, rather than the woman herself…”
“…For example, feeling the pressure to make all the moves and make them perfectly, not being able to be yourself, knowing that she holds all the cards, stuff like that. Sure, beauty is a big part of those things, but I wouldn’t say it’s “intimidating” in and of itself.”
It would be awesome if more girls would ask guys out and if we could stop believing in these “social conventions of dating” and “gender roles” that this guy points out. That stuff can definitely be intimidating and, honestly, we feel that way, too.
11. She’s Wealthy Or Intelligent
Money and intelligence seem to be a big part of relationships. If we’re smart people (and of course we are), then we want an equally intelligent boyfriend. Of course, we do, right?! It would be super boring otherwise and we would have nothing to talk about and different hobbies and interests. If we happen to come from a family with money, hopefully, we’re not snobby about it because no one likes that, but it’s just realistic to assume that if we dated a poorer guy, he might feel insecure about it. We might love him and have no problem dating him but the class differences might make it impossible to be together (or at least that’s how it seems in tons of movies).
“If they are insanely rich, or if they are ridiculously smarter than me. Pretty much the same thing I find intimidating by other men.”
This guy’s on Reddit finds it intimidating if a girl has more money or is more intelligent than him, and that probably makes more sense than most things on this list. It also makes sense that he finds men like this intimidating. We can agree that if we have a wealthy friend or someone who has more degrees than us, we might find that intimidating.