13. She Lies About Just How Many Guy Friends She Has…
Does she have male friends? If so, that can lead to some potential tension in any relationship. While some guys don’t mind if she has guy friends, others won’t tolerate it. There’s a wide spectrum of what guys are willing to deal with when it comes to her male friends. But according to Susan Shapiro Barash, a published author who shared her thoughts on the website Muscle and Fitness, there are men out there who don’t believe men and women can just be friends.
Women know that most men feel insecure or threatened by her male friends, and therefore take measures to prevent any conflict as a result of having a lot of dudes hangin’ around.
If a woman who has guy friends starts dating, she doesn’t want to make all these major life adjustments from the get-go. It’s going to work more in her favor not to talk about or reveal her guy friends right off the bat. Otherwise, her boyfriend might get envious from the beginning. Otherwise, if there’s no avoiding it, Barash points out that she’ll devalue her relationship with any guy friends. If he ever brings up any concern about her and those friends, she’ll simply talk it down like there’s nothing going on. However, sometimes this might just be a little white lie.
12. She’s Setting You Up For Second Place
If you’re dating a girl, chances are you’re not her first. Unless it’s her first date ever—which may have its own set of challenges altogether—then she knows what romance is all about. Part of dating someone is recognizing they more than likely have exes and learning to deal with it. As Cheatsheet points out, if she has an ex, she invested in someone else before you. It’s more than just attaching labels to a relationship. It’s spending time with another person, depending on them and opening yourself up to them. A common cliché is that you give a little bit of yourself to each person you’re with. As corny as it sounds, there’s actually some truth there. Each person you seriously date takes something emotionally from you.
Naturally, she might have some trepidation around you whenever her ex-comes up. This kind of concern could lead her to tell a lie. One reason Susan Shapiro Barash, author of Little White Lies, Deep Dark Secrets by way of CheatSheet gives for your girl doing this could be to protect your feelings. Another is that she doesn’t want to turn you off when feelings of jealousy arise. Although she could be doing this with good intentions, a lie like this can actually self-destruct the relationship.